Do you ever look at your life now and wonder how you got to where you are? Do you take stock and look at who you’ve become – your family, your job or whatever path you’re on, and say, ‘Well, I never imagined when I was younger that I would be…?’ I do. I also wish that I could speak to the younger me and give her some advice that might have made her more confident and less worried about getting older as she went through her life’s journey. So, I’ve decided to write my younger self a letter – which might be helpful for my 20-something daughters and I’d like to share it with you, my lovely Glowology readers…
You are enough just as you are. You don’t have to try and speak in a posh accent on the phone at work just because you’ve overheard somebody laughing about you and calling you a ‘cockney sparrow.’ In years to come, diversity will, thankfully, be embraced. You can come from anywhere in the world, any walk of life and be valued. But, if somebody doesn’t value you for just being who you are – they truly are not worth your time or effort. Two words sum it up: BE YOURSELF!
You do not need to starve yourself to fit a certain image. Beauty seriously comes in all shapes and sizes, so don’t let anyone tell you that a spare tyre or cellulite on your thighs is something you should try and make disappear. If you insist on starving yourself and denying yourself foods that you consider ‘bad for you’ (by the way NO food is bad for you – if it’s eaten in moderation) then you will make yourself miserable and wind up bingeing and putting on even more weight than before. Enjoy food – a lot! Make it healthy, nourishing and experiment with cook books – and don’t say you can’t cook – you can cook if you put your mind to it!
Don’t compare yourself. You are no better or worse than anybody else. Everybody is on their own journey and you should look at where you want to go and try to enjoy being on that journey – not somebody else’s. It’s so easy to get caught up thinking everyone else’s life is better, more glamorous or successful than yours – often people only show you the good bits. We are all going through our own ups and downs and remember, studying other people’s lives takes valuable time away from your own. Concentrate on yours!
Nurture your friendships. As you get older, you will need good friends in your life who will laugh with you and cry with you and who will be there for you through thick and thin. If you have friends like that, hold on tight and let them know how much you appreciate them. Be a good friend to others too because when the going gets tough in life, you will always have each other and that will be a blessing in years to come!
You can do hard things. Don’t let being nervous or feelings of insecurity put you off trying anything that you want to do in life. Don’t worry about what people might think if you want to do something that others might not understand. If your intuition is telling you that you will enjoy something, or to explore something – give it a go! Listen to your gut – it’s usually right. If you fail, so what? You will move on – bad times will pass and remember, we all make mistakes and you will learn from them.
Good luck young Lisa – one day you will be a Midlife Mum and you will now have wrinkles and still have cellulite. You will have overcome tough times even when you didn’t know how you would. But most importantly, you will also have celebrated a lot of magical moments and you will always have something to be grateful for.
How about you write a letter to your younger self. What would you say?