Can you get a more juvenile title than this one? Probably not – but it’s exactly what I needed at the beginning of this year. A big, hefty, kick up the jacksey to get me in action and stop me procrastinating and saying, ‘ah well, it is January, so I’ve got an excuse to be a lazy, greedy, dumpling.’ No. That is NO excuse. And the good news is – I found just the ‘foot up the bum’ I need, in the shape and form of Mel Robbins. Now, she doesn’t look at all like a foot – or a bum – so please don’t get me wrong, but her motivational advice is the best ‘kick up the bum’ – it’s a game changer. Let me tell you why…
Mel isn’t an airy fairy kind of speaker who mollycoddles you with her words. By that, I don’t mean she isn’t kind and understanding in the plight of so many of us who need to change our mindset from negative to positive to get stuff done. She is absolutely kind. But she’s also pretty matter-of-fact, almost tough talking – but never judging. She personally had a couple of tough decades and the tricks and science she learned to help her turn her life around, is what she is sharing with us today . So, I think of her like a wise sister or aunty who listens and understands your problems relating to feeling ‘not good enough’ or your reasons ‘why you can’t do something’ and then she, tells you, in a direct, very clear and simple way why you are good enough and why, actually, you can do something. And the points she makes and the tools she furnishes you with to try and improve your mindset are so straightforward and kind of, obvious, that you think ‘ok, well I guess I can try this. Got nothing to lose.’ And then…you actually start to feel better. As if you’re on the road to being that person that you’ve always wanted to be – which for me is a stronger, healthier, happier, less anxious and more pro-active me! I’m not there yet and that’s why I say I’m on the road to becoming that ‘improved’ version of me. Mel makes it clear that changing your thinking patterns to become more positive and to improve anxiety and worry is a process – it won’t happen over night – it’s something that has to be worked on everyday. She doesn’t promise you will change your life overnight – maybe some people will though – but with her help, you know that you can trip up and then get your mind back into the place it needs to be to get yourself on track.
Let me give you a quick and easy trick that Mel Robbins has made a complete fortune and amazing career out of – her book, The 5 Second Rule is an International Bestseller and even though I haven’t even read the book, just trying the trick she uses has changed my life. Big – HUGE – statement, but it really has. And I’m as shocked as the next person. Basically, you count backwards from 5 to 1 to pull yourself out of a negative thought, a worry, or to propel yourself into action, to do something you might be scared about or just don’t want to do but know you have to. For me, it’s getting out of bed in the morning! My alarm goes off at 7 and I hear it and now, in my head I say, 5 4 3 2 1 and I get out of bed. I don’t hit the snooze button. I get up, walk over to the phone and turn the alarm off (by the way, I never keep my phone near me in bed anymore either so I have to get out of bed.) It has simply changed my life! I feel SO MUCH BETTER in the mornings. Even my yearly bout of Seasonal Affective Disorder has improved. I blamed that on my wanting to snuggle back under the duvet and press snooze. Why would you want to get out of bed on a cold, dark morning? Well, because you HAVE to! So, I just count 5 4 3 2 1 and I get up and out and on with my day. It’s really helped me – and so many countless other people, so it works!
If I have a phone call I have to make but don’t really want to, I count 5 4 3 2 1 and pick up the phone and dial. Recycling needs go get done? 5 4 3 2 1 – I walk to the recycling and start doing it! The incredible thing is, that it’s a method that is actually backed by science – as is every suggestion and piece of advice that Mel dishes out and that’s why I think I’m happy to try Mel’s techniques. The science behind why the 5 second rule works is shared by Mel in this link here.
So, now I’ve told you about my greatest find so far of 2019 which helps keep me motivated, happy, positive and pro-active, I’d love to know what works for you – especially in the winter and days when you just don’t want to get moving.
Coming up on Glowology, I’m going to be sharing lots of tips, tricks, products and finds that I hope will help us mid-lifers get the most out of our lives. Isn’t being happy, healthy and feeling and looking great what it’s all about? I think so – and getting older isn’t any reason to stop feeling fabulous – in fact it is a reason to feel even more fabulous! 😊